This couple is thriving and has a marriage of gold! We can learn some things from their example, but first I’ll introduce you to them.
They got married in the Fall of 1967. One had just finished college, and the other had served in the U.S. Army. They were friends for years first and started dating in their mid-twenties. They got married in California where they were born and raised, then moved to Washington as a young couple for work, and then settled in Oregon where they still reside. Since 1967, they have raised five children; helped out with fourteen grandchildren, and have had a variety of pets.
This couple is my parents and this week they are celebrating their Golden Wedding Anniversary! I’m so happy and excited for them to reach such a huge accomplishment in their life. They are my role models, and I hope that I can be as happy and healthy as they are at their age.
Support Can Take You a Long Way
My parents have had their fair share of life’s ups and downs, as we all do! When my mother was pregnant with me, my brother got hit by a school bus and nearly died. Then, there was the time that my other brother broke his back during a sledding field trip and missed half a year of school. I still remember having a hospital bed in our living room!
There was also the Summer of 1993 when all five children left home to pursue boarding schools and colleges on the East Coast! My mother experienced empty nest syndrome, and she cried for weeks! I’m the youngest, and I still feel bad for causing my mom to cry since I left home at the age of seventeen for an out of state high school, but my parents instilled in me a love for travel and adventure!
These are just some examples of struggles my parents dealt with in life, but my parents always had each other as a shoulder to cry on. The support of a loved one can take you a long way!
They Have Gained Wisdom
My parents have gained a lot of wisdom over the years, and I’m continually learning from them trying to soak it up like a sponge.
We all make mistakes, but my parents have done an excellent job at learning from trial and error.
My dad has become such a gentle and patient person; he is my inspiration! I have to give credit to my dad for starting me on my journey towards health and wellness. He was sick and not doing well, but he looked into natural alternatives when conventional medicine was not helping him. He would see chiropractors and started reading Dr. Mercola’s website. It was my dad that gave me an article from Dr. Mercola that opened up my eyes to the world of natural health and wellness while I was still working as a registered nurse over a decade ago!
My mom has become more outspoken and charismatic. People really like her and give her great service and free things! My mom has taught me to be more adventurous and sociable, so I can live life to the fullest.
10 Lessons from My Thriving Parents
My parent’s doctors tell them they are very healthy especially for their age. They are in their mid to late seventies. They don’t rely on prescription medication or live a life revolved around doctor visits. I would say they are living an abundant life!
There are so many factors that contribute to being a healthy person. Genetics can play a small factor, but most of it is related to our environment, how we respond to stress, getting enough sleep, what we put on and in our bodies, and being truthful to ourselves and what we believe. My parents do several things that contribute to them being so healthy.
They exercise regularly.
My mom has a gym membership, and my dad uses exercise equipment at home. Besides that, they get regular exercise by maintaining their large home and yard; and they love to dance together.
They avoid bringing harmful chemicals into their home; in household cleaners, personal toiletries, and even for their yard.
Using chemicals can introduce toxins into our body that can cause a whole host of problems. My parents use doTERRA essential oils around the home and to support their health. There are simple changes we can make to have a less toxic living environment. For example, switch out scented candles and instead diffuse essential oils or make a homemade room spray with essential oils. My dad uses an essential oil blend I made him as his cologne, so he doesn’t have toxins getting absorbed through his skin.
They make a conscious effort to avoid foods they know they are sensitive to.
My dad was born with an awful digestive system and was even hospitalized as a newborn because of it. He wasn’t breastfed since he was in the hospital so long and he had a life ahead of him of digestive issues. Despite that, he is thriving! He has learned through trial and error and working with a naturopath, how to eat for his health. If you’re wondering, his diet consists of quality lean meat, fish, quinoa, and organic vegetables. It’s limited, but it makes him feel good, so he has no complaints.
They use high-quality whole food dietary supplements for additional vitamins and minerals.
Our soil now is so depleted of vitamins and minerals that it is necessary to supplement with a high-quality whole food supplement. This is what they use for their daily multi-vitamin.
They laugh a lot.
My parents are both funny in their own way. They laugh all the time. One thing they enjoy doing is watching old comedy films together like I Love Lucy episodes. They don’t watch the news together and my mom doesn’t allow anyone to talk about bad news in their home. This makes visits with them a fun experience. I enjoy going over to spend time with them. Their light-heartedness is so therapeutic for them and for those around them.
They are never bored.
They always have something to do and are very good at staying busy. My mom is usually running errands asking me what shoe size my children are now or if I need new pots and pans. My dad says he feels busier now than when he was in the workforce.
They still travel together. Some of their best memories are from places they’ve traveled. They’ve been to eighteen countries and are still talking about going to Singapore again!
They respect each other’s time.
They give each other space to do their own activities during the day. At the end of the day, they spend time together doing some recreational activity. Their longtime favorite has been playing Scrabble. They are both very good and I can never win against them.
They practice virtue.
My parents practice the Catholic faith and they truly try to live the Gospel message. This has really helped in their relationship; to be respectful, patient, being faithful to one another and building each other up, and offering forgiveness.
That is a lot for one lesson, and they have had years of practice to get to where they are now!
As long as I can remember my parents have been volunteering in some capacity in their community and their church. I remember going door to door to pick up canned food for the poor during the holiday season and adopting poor families year round. I often hear about her visits to the donation center that help out women and children in need.
My parents are so generous with their time and so much more. They have never turned me away when I’ve needed their help. My parents have helped me with every move which has been a lot! They watch my kids for the evening or weeks at a time so I can have some peace and quiet, or go on a trip with my husband. They even helped me raise my oldest child when my husband was sick and I worked full-time. I wouldn’t be close to where I am today without their support!
They pray together.
Prayer is a central part of their relationship. They pray together daily for the needs of the world, their family, and for each other. Praying together and for each other can really strengthen a relationship.
These are the things that contribute towards true health and wellness. I’m so thankful to witness how to thrive in life and in relationships from my parents!
Which lesson is your favorite? Your reply can be left in the comment section below.
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